Persuasion kryptonite and the power of silence

Persuasive power of silence or the kryptonite for salespeople: If there were a kryptonite for those who need to persuaded daily on a one to one basis that would be silence. There is a saying that “silence is golden” and nowhere else is that truer than in the persuasion process. Most salespeople who have to deal with silence get weak results just from no words coming from a client or perspective client because they do not know how to deal with it.

 

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The fear alone from the silence costs persuaders and companies plenty of money every day of the year.

 

Now you may think that silence on the part of a buyer or purchaser is a bad think but you may want to rethink that situation for a few moments. Buyers sometimes need silence to make their decision and your constant talking is stopping them from thinking, even worse it may show a lack of confidence in your product or service. The stall in thinking causes the buyer to now think about a few things and if you could step inside their mind you would probably hear:

 

“why is that guy or girl talking still I just need a second to work out the finances in my head”  and then “you know who talks too much, my cousin Jimmy and you know who will give me grief for getting this super charged widget Jimmy’s dad Steve now I don’t want to deal with Steve so how do I get out of buying this widget I will say I wanna think about it”.

 

Silence in the persuasive process one on one can be your best friend if you know how to set up the situation correctly. Maybe you learned covert hypnosis and or the ability to lead to the decision through the use of presuppositions and found how productive you could be from being silent.

 

Silence as a negotiation strategy

Do you really want to see how good a persuader is? You will know by how they deal with their own silence or the silence of the person or the people they need to get to make a change, write a check or to get an answer. You can literally use silence to negotiate on your behalf. The next time that you go to buy something after the number of the product or the service is rolled out just be quite for about 20 – 30 seconds and the seller or rookie persuader will find their kryptonite and will start dropping their price or start giving things away as a way to squash the silence.

 

Most sales people don’t realize how the silence can be their friend and how much pressure it puts on their buyer, people being persuaded or even a group. In general people don’t know how to deal with a quiet pause for as little as 15 seconds.

 

Persuasion home work:  

So you want to get people to your way of thinking? As a simple strategy the next time that you are asked a question just pause for a second or two and see what the reaction is by the person who is asking the question. You may see them get frustrated, annoyed, complaint or even surprised that you didn’t automatically react to the question or the request. Over time you will be able to wait longer between answering questions or even be able to become silent longer after asking a question.

 

A word of caution, you will want to use silence in low value conversations that do not matter not for items or conversations that matter. When someone asks you where you want to go to lunch would be a low value conversation. Now on the other hand if a significant other asks if you love them and you have told them yes before pausing to answer will cause some interesting issues.

 

Be patient with others in the persuasion process to learn more and how to become more effective, for most people instant knowledge does not ever happen.

 

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Stories and questions of a persuasion expert

Persuasive powers of communication: There are plenty of times where you need some persuasive power while dealing with others. You will want to be able to effectively influence the people around you in the best format possible to get your message out and then also get the man or the woman to your way of thinking.

 

When it comes to communicating and delivering your message there are two powerful forms of communication:

  1. 1.      Persuasive questions
  2. 2.      Stories that lead to influential actions

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Persuasive questions

One of the greatest skills that you can learn to communicate better is that of persuasive questions. Now there are plenty of questions that you can ask and hey can range from open ended to closed ended or they may have a great length to them. No matter how a question is asked the person is listening has to think about what the question was but they don’t have to answer it.

 

Its not just enough the question has a powerful hook the person who is asking the persuasive question must know when to be quiet. Just as the question has a sense of power the silence may have even more power than the question because the person has to think about what was asked or how to respond. There is a age old mantra in the sales world and that is “the first person to talk loses” and part of the persuasive questioning abilities comes form knowing when to be quiet.

 

You will want to be quiet after every question and that how you know when to not talk.

 

A persuasive question looks for an answer to an area that will affect the decision, now this is different from a fact question.

 

A fact question would be:

 

How many widgets did you ship last month?

 

A persuasive question may fall along the lines of:

 

If you have any work done with this project and it’s not performed correctly are you completely ok with that?

 

….. even if the competing job comes in for less?

 

It makes the other person or people think and then they have to talk it out if you know how to get them talking. From there you may want to watch the other person’s body language or even ask more questions that would allow you to reverse on the potential client.

 

Just know that when you ask questions the right way you will find that your influence may do more work for you than what you would think.

 

Persuasive power of stories:

Stories are the way that people communicated when there was no writing and whether a man or woman knows how to read they can convey a story.

 

Now your challenge is to wrap facts into the story or strong points to make it effective. You can do this by writing down your facts first and the adding the elements of the story that would make the story draw out emotions or challenge the listener.  

 

You may want to use covert hypnosis in the story to be more persuasive and really take some time to engineer the story to be more effective.  

 

Persuasive story with emotions and vocal power

While telling a story it becomes more persuasive the more that it comes to life and that can come from the way that it is delivered including vocal inflection, the use of body language.

 

Persuasive stories can be repeated later on down the road but can get people to take action after the story has been told with ease by the teller because it is highly memorable.

 

The power of stories can bond people together or can get people to fall asleep. A good story will captivate people, draw them in and then get them to take an action or ask a question. Those 2 things are important:

  • ·         Ask a question – one that you have wanted them to ask
  • ·         Take an action – one that you have built into the story

 

Joseph Campbell has extensive knowledge on telling stories and breaking them down so that you can engineer a story to work better for you. You can get his books and dvd’s on amazon.

 

When a persuasive story is told the right way the action needed will be taken in the time frame that is designed by the teller.

 

Learning how to craft persuasive story takes time and patience and plenty of practice.

 

When you are persuading others it’s a good idea to practice your message prior if possible to find any loopholes that may trap you.

 

Practice persuasive questions

For you to practice persuasive questions you will want to ask people who have no ties to your product, industry or your way of thought to get a true reaction that you can gauge and this allows you to know what type of reaction that you will get.

 

Leaning how to influence others can be the key to more income, a new boyfriend or girlfriend or even that imported car that you always wanted.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments or questions about persuasive questions and stories.

 

 

 

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Scott Sylvan Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Expert persuasion of voice

Expert persuasion with voice control: Persuaders have plenty of things to think about and deal with while working on projects to get to a “yes”.

 

Persuasion fails when these issues happen

  • ·         The call speeds up
  • ·         The call slows down
  •           Lack of confidence
  • ·         The vocal patterns of questions and statements are wrong

 

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Persuasion failure because of speed

There are a few typical issues that happen while people are in “sales mode” and one of the first things is that the speed or pace of the appointment or call speeds up in the mind of the persuader and when that happens they tend to start pushing by putting pressure on the buyer, person or people involved with the project.

 

This impatience can cost sales because it is not persuasive it almost gives the feel of desperation to the buyer or investor. Everything seemed fine and then the pace of the appointment changed, the body language changes and then the voice changes.

 

Persuasion failure because of pace

The opposite of the sales call speeding up is when the salesperson or the persuader loses steam and the call starts to stall the tempo is lost and then once again there is the feel of desperation and either there is discounting involved or plenty of stalls along with negotiation. The worst of all the dreaded “I wanna think about it” may occur.  

 

This can be because the salesperson or the persuader didn’t do their homework about the client, service or product that is being sold. These issues lead to frustration and once again the buyer or client can feel the pressure and then they back away.

 

Persuasive power of voice

Now one of the items that you can work on to persuade more effectively is your voice. When there is stress in the persuasion process your voice can fail you by giving away your lack of confidence or exposing that you are confident.

 

When men or women have confidence you can feel it in their voice and also in their body language and or nonverbal communicaton. Their shoulders are up they move with smooth flow and they are relaxed.

 

Your voice is entirely different when you are relaxed vs when you are stressed or frustrated and that isnt always a good thing.

 

When you lack confidence in your abilities your voice will “leak” your position and when that happens you lose your ability to persuade effectively.

You can hear this lack of confidence on:

  • ·         The phone
  • ·         Recordings
  • ·         Live in person

 

Persuasive voice and how to get one

One of the ways to verify your persuasive voice is to record you talking something that you are passionate about or something that you are really familiar with. You will want to put that recording to the side. By the way this persuasion exercise works the best with video because you can also watch the body language of your won confidence.

 

Now on the other hand you can listen to where you lose your persuasive voice by recording you talking about something that you don’t know about and once again this persuasion exercise works the best when you use video vs just talking on audio recording.

 

The best way to make this work is to talk about the investment about or the price or larger numbers than what you are used to and say them over and over again. Now this exercise may sound funny at first but once you hear what you sound like on audio or see your body language on video you will want to practice these items to increase your persuasive selling skills fairly quickly.

 

You will want to keep these recordings whether audio or video to see how your growth as a persuader has come along. Just know that you will be amazed at what you sound like  and look like on video but get over it, its what you sound like and look like. The good news is that you always have room for improvement.

 

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How to sell more avoid these sales mistakes

 

How to sell more: There are plenty of great things about persuasion and sales training but there are also some evils that can hurt your sales process or even your ability to influence others.

 

Most people go to these courses to help their abilities and techniques and that is part of the problem but it doesn’t have anything to do with the trainers or instructors.

 

First off learning how to sell more requires a bit of patience and some trial and error. Notice that it says some trial and error.

 

Learning how to sell more means you can beat objections like I wanna think about it.

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Common sales mistakes from training

The first mistake that salespeople make when they learn how to sell more or get ideas from persuasion is to implement too much at one time. This biting off more than what can be chewed causes a few issues.

  • ·         Decreases confidence in abilities
  • ·         Changes up a familiar process
  • ·         Creates confusion in the buying process for both parties

 

How to make sales and persuasion training work for you

To get the most out of whatever sales training or influence courses that you take there are a few things to remember as you implement what you have learned.

  1. 1.      Keep a journal of ideas
  2. 2.      Implement slowly while on top
  3. 3.      Know when to use what you have learned

 

How to sell more with a journal

Taking notes while training is not just a good idea it’s a great idea. The best way to do so is with a real journal and not just a note pad. Now there are many thoughts out there as to how to take notes but whatever way you take the notes make sure that you can read what you write. Keep a list of ideas that can be implemented but remember to not implement all at the same time. If something doesn’t work for you after a few attempts keep the notes but stop using the new strategy, tactic or script.

 

How to sell more by implementing what you have learned

Take some time to go back through your notes and put a priority on the items from what you have learned. If at all possible figure out where you will put what you learned into use. They key here is to look at what you have learned and figure out how you can make the information work for you.

 

How to sell by knowing what to use

When you attend sales courses, read books, listen to cd’s, watch dvd’s or do anything else when it comes to sales training there is plenty to learn. Now just like a mechanic has a great deal of tools people who persuade others for their livelihood develop libraries of information and possible items that can be used to influenced others to your way of thinking. Its your job to learn when to use what you have learned and that happens with time and patience. There is only so much you can do with scripting and role play. Being live out in the field makes all of the difference.

 

Just remember know that it takes time to learn what to add to a sales presentation and doing too much can cause a catastrophe.

 

Learning the science of influence can take your sales ability to the next level, here is the best place to learn.

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about how to sell more by avoiding these common sales mistakes.

 

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Persuasive sales techniques of other salespeople

 

Persuasive sales techniques of others: So much money is spent on sales training and while some the techniques and strategies work there are salespeople who do not bother to implement what they have learned. On the other hand there are some fantastic sales lessons out there that you can benefit from.

 

Persuasive sales techniques that don’t work

Now there are times when you walk away from a salesperson whether you are in the business or not and just shake your head wondering if they ever make any money from what they do. These are the type of salespeople who think that it’s all about scripts and the “next level” sales idea that really doesn’t work. Their sales process isn’t really cool or really easy and there at tons of sales mistakes along with lack of building rapport. It may even be that the salesperson doesn’t know how to make their buyer a hero.

 

In order for you to tune up your persuasive sales techniques and abilities you will want to watch what other sales people do wrong through their sales process and then not do whatever they did wrong. If you are in sales or have people in sales you will want to be able to convey the message of what not to do in sales so take great notes.

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Persuasive sales techniques that work

In order to get better at influencing others there are many things that you can do:

  • ·         Takes sales courses
  • ·         Pay for personal coaching by a persuasion expert
  • ·         Spend time out in the field selling
  • ·         Read books on persuasion or influence

 

Courses on sales can only go so far for you if your job is to influence people. Many times great theory it taught but the implementation of sales strategies is not.

 

You can even find a persuasion expert and pay them a good size chunk of money to help you find enlightenment in your industry. Normally this strategy pays off

 

There is something to be said from learning how to persuade others out in the field. There is a learning curve associated with working hand in hand alongside of your clients.

 

You can even buy all of the greatest books on sales training, overcoming objections, NLP, relationship building but you once again will have a long term learning curve.

 

One of the best things that you can do to learn persuasive selling skills and techniques is to watch other sales people. If they use a question in the sales process that you can use, then write it down and figure out a way to use it in your own sales process. If they ask a question that engages you write it down and find a way to implement it.

 

Sales training doesn’t have to come from a class or a course it can come from meeting and talking to other sales people in everyday interactions where you are involved or even interactions that you overhear.

 

There are plenty of places to learn new sales skills, techniques and or abilities and they will not always come from your industry.

 

Influence is a science and it takes some time to learn one of the best place to do so is right here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions on the persuasive sales techniques of others.

 

 

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Persuasive questioning mistakes

 

Persuasive questioning mistakes: when it comes to sales training especially the training that teaches persuasive questioning techniques there are a few items that are typically left out by the sales trainers.

 

One of the items overlooked soften is the vocal capabilities of the sales people.

 

Now this isn’t to say that this is the only item to keep an eye on but the pitch and tone does help the person that you are with to understand what you are asking or what you are saying.

 

Persuading others to your idea thoughts or beliefs is about them being comfortable not only with the idea but also with you.

 

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One of the most uncomfortable things that you can do as a salesperson is to offend the person in front of you. There are times where the persuasive questioning becomes an interrogation and the sales call is no longer really cool really easy. The feeling in the room becomes intense and the person who is the perspective client may just shut down and decide to no longer work with the salesperson.

 

Persuasive questioning made easy

Imagine you were on the other side of the table. How would you like the questions to be asked by the salesperson, not just the questions but the tone of them. Would you want them to roll out smoothly or with aggression?

 

Now this all may sound a little silly but when sales people get frustrated or when they roll into a sales slump a common issue is how they discuss items with people and then they take what would normally be a persuasive questioning strategy or technique and turn it into something evil causing a bad reaction or total rejection to the idea.

 

Reasons to watch out for the persuasive questioning mistakes

  • ·         Slows down rejection
  • ·         Helps maintain sales numbers
  • ·         Keeps a presentation interesting

 

Sales slumps are normal and there are plenty of reasons why they can happen. Making a sales slump last longer than what is needed hurts and makes sales even tougher. Recognize what changes that you can make to your process to make your life easier and your sales increase faster.

 

Persuading others for a living can take its toll on salespeople. Another common issue is to get bored with the questions that are being asked and they seem like a pain to ask while rolling off the lips of the persuader, the potential client then feels like they are not appreciated and then they stop listening or interacting in a way that is productive to the meeting. Make sure that your presentation process is fun, informative and does its job of persuading others to your ideas or thoughts instead of pushing your potential client away because of how you ask the questions.

 

When you make it seem like you have not asked the same question a million times but also show comfort and confidence when asking the persuasive question you will have an easier chance on converting the potential client to a client.  

 

Persuading others requires that you understand the fundamentals of influence, you can learn those here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about persuasive questioning mistakes!

 

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How to sell more make your client a hero

How to sell more make your client a hero: If you work for a business you are a salesperson you may have heard the term “make your client the hero”. This expression doesn’t help you if you don’t know how to help the situation.

 

Making your client the hero may be as easy as making the process or the buying situation easy for them.

 

One of the challenges for buyers of any product is that they do not want to look dumb or they do not want to do anything in the eyes of their peers that would cause them to look like they made a bad decision.

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Salespeople can make their client the hero

If you are in sales one of the best ways to make your buyers look smart and ultimately look like a hero buy making your explanations easy to understand.

 

Now this idea of making your products or services easy to understand may cause you to believe that you are already doing this but chances are you are not making your explanations easy for a buyer to understand especially if you are in a technical industry.

 

The best explanations are the ones that are short and do not have a ton of technical terms. It is a good idea to remember that most people in the United States have less than a 8th grade reading and comprehension level and if you trigger the thought that makes them look dumb they may shut down and you would not even know why.

 

If you are explaining something and you lost the man or the woman they are not listening to what you are saying they are just hoping you will stop soon so that they can tell you “I wanna think about it” or “no”.  

 

Ways to make your client the hero

You can make your client the hero by practicing the ways that you explain terms or ideas for you product or service to a few people who are not in your industry, if they have questions or concerns you will need to refine the script.

 

If you have some sort of brochure you would want to do the same thing, showing people from outside your industry what you have will answer so many questions of why someone chooses you over another person or not.

 

A huge thing to remember is that you are in your industry and have heard the terms and ideas probably a million times. The person who is new may have some “silly” or “dumb” questions that you get all day long. Part of your job is to answer those “silly” or “dumb” questions like it was the first time that you heard them. If you act put off by having to answer the same question over and over again you will have to leave civilization as you know it. Even if you go to work in a drive up window you would have to ask the same question over and over again and that would be “you want to upsize your meal for a quarter more”? Ok so you want to be a Rockstar? You would have to sing the same songs over and over again.

 

Remember make everything that you do with your clients and potential clients as easy as possible and they will repay you when they don’t have to look dumb by buying your product and or services.

 

One last thought if you think this idea is too simple. Chances are your competition doesn’t even take a look at this idea look at their product or literature in the same way. Just know if it’s complicated and not easy to understand you are miles ahead. Make your process really easy and you will be good to go by making your “client the hero” and they can make a good decision.  

 

So you want to persuade and influence people better? You will need a understanding of how people think and you can get it here:

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about making your client the hero!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

Now go implement!

 

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Persuasive power of really cool really easy

Persuasive power of really cool really easy: When salespeople deal with clients or potential clients it helps to keep in mind being on the other side of the table.

 

When was the last time that you wanted a difficult process or have to work through a hassle. Now this all sounds simple and may not sound like a persuasive sales tip or some earth shattering advice but it may just be for some people.

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Now one of the best things that you can do is to record your sales process in video and do two things:

  • ·         Listen to your presentation and take notes as to what you think went well and what needs help
  • ·         Watch your presentation and look for items that may be out of order without the sound on.

 

Yes it may take some time to first listen to your presentation and then watch it without sound but what you will see and hear may change your mind about the way that you work on influencing others.   

 

There is a saying that “persuasion happens in the silence” and that is only true when you set of the silence correctly.

 

The idea of really cool really easy

To explain the idea of really cool really easy you first will have to take a look at a half truth when it comes to sales training. You may have heard the saying “whoever has the highest energy in a meeting wins” but it isn’t over the top energy

 

When you put enough excitement in your presentation that is not over the top you have an easier chance of the people listening to you.. This persuasive power doesn’t happen with a canned script it happens with you being real and your realness does shine through but that is only the first part of the equation.

 

The second part of the equation is really easy. Making the sales process throughout from start to finish really cool really easy takes away some of the resistance. The key here is that not all of the resistance is taken away but some of it may just as well be enough to give you a better chance vs someone who is a competitor. When you can make your process seem like time has stopped and not what the potential clients are expecting it throws the buyer off guard enough for them to relax.

 

Before anyone buys anything they have a preconceived belief about how the experience is going to be. The potential client comes to the table believing one thing and every other wanna be persuader lets the potential client to live up to that expectation.

 

Just think for a second about how you would want your experience to be and make it like that for your buyer.

 

Really cool really easy is something that most salespeople forget because they are all caught up in trying to be perfect but that doesn’t allow the salesperson to be real and then the comfort goes away.

 

What if you are a persuader who isn’t in sales

You still have to opportunity to help the people that you meet and make the process for them really cool and really easy. You will see that people will react better and will be more willing to do what you ask instead of the resistance block being there in place.

 

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As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about persuasion and making your process really cool and really easy.

 

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Persuasion expert skill of greeting

Persuasive selling skills: One of the most persuasive actions that a person can take when dealing with others is to be polite. In many instances difficult buyers may be very demanding thinking that will be the way to be overtly persuasive but that is the exact opposite of what will help them get what they want.

 

Yes a may sound simple to be a persuasive genius just by being polite but it does help more than you would imagine.

 

If you were having to help someone through a difficult situation whether personal or business would you be willing to help a person who is difficult the same amount for a person who is calm and rational but firm?

 

Now there are ways where you can play into this persuasive selling skill covertly and the powers can help you in the long run.

 

Being polite to others cause the person who is helping you to mostly be polite back. So you also ask how does that help you make more sales just rom being polite?

 

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The answer lies in mental real estate + being polite.

 

Persuasive selling skill the introduction

A persuasive selling skill in action: When was the last time that someone how are you? This question happens millions of time a day.

 

And your response was fine, ok, doing good or any other response that you can give.

 

But what if there was a more persuasive way to answer that question that gets the other person to give you a little more attention would it be worth knowing.

 

Now in order for this persuasive selling skill and technique to work you will have to use some of the laws of English for your benefit.

 

The correct answer for “How are you doing”? is “well, thank you very much, and how have you been”?

 

Now this may not sound like a formula to make more sales covertly or even take over the world but there is something to this answer that gets people to pay attention to what you are about to say.

 

Ok, so you may not believe this but you will not get a persuasive sales technique homework assignment that will cost you nothing but benefit you greatly.

 

Persuasive selling skills assignment

The next time that you are in line you can practice this persuasive selling skills technique. You must pay attention to how the clerk or salesperson has treated and talked to the person in front of you while you were in line.

 

You will listen for the responses that are given when the clerk or salesperson asks “how are you”? This new information will allow you to see what you can do just by changing a few words.

 

When it is your time up at the counter or with the salesperson you response to the question “How are you”? is now to say “I am doing quite well today and how have you been”?

 

So this does not sound very earth shattering when it comes to asking a question but please do not discount the power of intentional subtle influence (ISI) when it comes to your ability to persuade.

 

If you have watched enough people answer you to “I am doing quite well” just by itself you will find that they answer you back using proper English for the most part by answering you the same exact way.

 

You may also notice that the person that you are dealing with may stand up straighter and deliver their answer with more emphasis than their conversation with you previously.

 

Persuasive selling skills expertly executed

Absolutely crazy that they will answer you back in a way that they have not been answering people all day long and chances are that when you walk away they will not answer the question the same exact way at all until someone else answers “quite well thank you very much”.

 

Now there is a second part to this that you may not have caught and that is to ask the person “How have you been”?

 

Your best bet is to just say it with confidence just like it was part of your everyday conversation. The more that you put emphasis on “how have you been”? the more that the question does not work for you it will eventually work against you.

 

Persuasive selling skill – The law of conditioned response

This one question holds more power than what you would guess or figure for a few reasons. First you must think about the Law of conditioned response. This law states then when you use the same language of a friend or relative in a relationship a stranger will do the same. In essence this reaction is a shortcut into the backdoor of their brain for trust and relationships.

 

When you ask someone “How have you been”? it implies that you have met the person before, they are a friend or they are a relative.

 

So how does this help you expertly persuade others?

 

Great question and it is perfectly normal for you to think that and a very smart one by the way…

 

When you wire your persuasive message in a way where you can break down some barriers without having to do some work you are in a position to win a little easier.

 

Just travel down this path for a second you meet with someone that you want to be able to expertly persuade but they have met with other salespeople or consultants who may have caused them to build up a resistance to your message without even meeting you.

 

You enter into the meeting and ask the person who has all of the control and the money that you want in their pocket and you must expertly persuade them to get it from them “How have you been”? Their brain now has to search to determine if you have met before. You are taking advantage of a lazy brain because it is easier for the brain of the man or woman who you are meeting to say “We have met somewhere but I am embarrassed to ask where, but I know we have met and I know I should remember so now I am going to have to try and figure all of this out before he realizes that I have no clue who he or she is”.

 

This brain hack takes the pressure off of you to give some information to the buyer or potential client and give you a persuasive sales skills that allows you to be an expert a maneuvering around some built up animosity towards sales people.

 

Persuasive sales skills that can go bad

Now it does take some time to learn how to use this persuasive sales skill. There are also people who this expert tactic will not work on and they may catch onto what you are doing but chances are they will not. In many instances this technique will not work well with more than one possibly two people so groups of people are out because you cannot ask them this question individually. You will also have to play with the timing of how you ask this question as to get it right.

 

Persuasive sales skills that can go right

You can learn how to persuade like an expert but you will have to put some effort into what you are doing from here on out. Expert persuaders know that the tactics and strategies must be done in conjunction of proper body language and enunciation for the words that are used.

 

When asking people “How have you been”? first just watch to see how people react out in a store where there is no real downside for you or in other words no harm that can come from your message. After 50- 100 attempts work this message into your sales calls. Since you really want to have success in what you do you will take the time when out shopping to use the question of “how have you been” to your advantage.    

 

Persuasive selling skill transformed

The words that you use may or may not have great weight to them when you use them. Your inflection counts, your body language counts and your overall interaction with your potential client counts and now just for fun add in your personality.

 

One of the biggest challenges that salespeople face in the persuasion process is that they become experts at their script but forget to add in their own personality. Remember that in order to persuade effectively your personality must be present.

 

Persuasive selling techniques and skills, how to learn more

Learn how to persuade others with expert abilities and confidence, your best source to learn persuasive selling skills and techniques can be done here

 

As always I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about persuading others expertly.  

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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Persuasion of mental real estate

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Persuasion through action: Experts in persuasion understand the Law of mental real estate and how it is used for the purposes of persuasion.

 

If you were to break up the spaces in the brain like a parking garage you would find that some beliefs and thoughts would take up more spaces than other thoughts.

 

When it comes to you holding some of that space in the brains parking garage or mental real estate you will have to do things that some would consider abnormal.

 

In a sense you are branding something  and that something is you…

 

How much mental real estate do you take up in your significant others mind?

 

How easy is it for you to persuade that man or woman because of the amount of mental real estate that they hold?

 

Now think about clients that you are working on…

 

How much mental real estate of theirs do you hold?

 

….and how much compliance do they give you?

 

Ah that is a good question..

 

But the better answer is the more mental real estate that you hold in a man or woman’s mind the easier it is to persuade them over time.

 

For you to be an expert in persuasion you will have to master the art of gaining mental real estate.

 

How to gain mental real estate and become a persuasion expert

One way that you can learn how to gain mental real estate or hold thoughts in a man or woman’s mind is to do things that are out of the ordinary that hold their thoughts.

 

Now these things that you will do are out of the ordinary but not crazy or stalkerish in anyway.

 

The idea of sending someone something in the mail that would grab their attention may be a good idea and in some instances it may be a bad one also.

 

There are a few things that you can send in the mail to hold mental real estate in a man or woman’s mind:

  • Coffee
  • Magazine articles
  • Chocolate
  • Cigars

 

The truth of the matter is you can send just about anything to the person that you are trying to gain mental real estate with.

 

Mental real estate and how to gain it

Now the whole goal of mental real estate is to hold a spot in the man or woman’s mind for a good reason.

 

Now the act of gaining attention of the man or woman can be done with a simple act like sending a hand written thank you card after meeting them at a conference and exchanging business cards. The idea is that you do something that grabs attention.

 

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One of the best ways to gain some mental real estate is by sending something from a unique location.

 

Sure you can send the item or letter from a location near home but when you send something from a location that makes the person try to remember who you are and why there is a package coming from that location it builds a sense of mystery and that mystery helps build your mental real estate.

 

Send the item from a cool place when you are on vacation and your mental real estate increases.

 

Now in order to be a true expert at the game of persuasion you will really have to think ahead of time instead of thinking in the short term.

 

The idea is to send your item far before it is needed for you to have it do anything for you.

 

Mental real estate works the best when it is used 6 – 12 months before it is needed.

 

Just send your object with no hopes of ever hearing about it from the person you sent it to. If the person does thank you for the item just accept their” thank you” graciously and move on.

 

6 – 12 months later you would then strike up a conversation and ask for the item that you want or the interview and you will have a better chance of being heard.

 

In order to make the mental real estate program work the best for you there will have to be some research on your part to be done to learn about the interests of the man or the woman that you want to increase your persuasion with. Find out things that they like, pack a few of them up with a card with some sort of note that can say “thanks for inspiring me” or something else that is flattering but not over the top.

 

Make it simple and hand written …

 

And wait.

 

Mental real estate done the right way to be an expert of persuasion

When you have done the tasks necessary to gain the mental real estate for use later on down the road your requests will be met.

 

You may even find that the person who you have decided to work with has a rapport or bond with you before you sit down with them or talk to them on the phone.

 

Just not in some instances this pre thought out persuasive action may not do a thing for you. Just know that in the future it will reap some sort of benefit with another person.

 

So it didn’t work…

 

So what replicate it again.

So you don’t have  use ton of money to make your persuasion to happen….

 

Just send a hand written thank you card with a note in it that is simple but flattering.

 

You don’t have to go overboard or be super elaborate, just be memorable.  If you are using email think way ahead and plan out your thoughts or questions. This persuasion strategy isn’t something that is done spur of the moment, it is done with an end game in mind.

 

Just remember to make the item relevant and simple to the man or woman that you are working on persuading.

 

Expert of persuasion and influence? If that is something that you would like to be check this out and you will find how to persuade better.

 

I would like to thank you in advance for your comments and or questions about persuasion and mental real estate.

 

Now go implement!

 

Scott Sylvan Bell

 

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